Online dating is undoubtedly a popular way to meet new people and possible lifetime partner. If you have met someone online and you would like to take things farther, you must be thinking of setting up a real date. But, of course it will not easy. You should know very well that the first date can either be the start of something good or the last date you will have with that person.
No matter what the outcome could be, it would be a good idea to be prepared. That way, you can always say that you have tried your best.
Meeting someone face-to-face for the first time can be exciting and a bit nerve-racking. To lessen the uncomfortable feeling and to make you have a little confidence in meeting your online date for the first time, you should consider the following tips that may help in making your first date go smoothly.
Setting Up the Date
It is easy to set lunch dates with your college friends or colleagues from work. But it may not be as simple to set up a date with someone you met online. You may have been comfortable talking for hours on end, but a face-to-face meeting is definitely different from chatting online. There are simply a lot of things that you have to put into consideration.
If the two of you happen to live quite near each other, then there wouldn’t be much of a problem when it comes to choosing a place to meet. If there is quite a distance between you two, then you may have to compromise; either on will travel to the other, or you both can travel to meet halfway. If you live in the same country, it may not be a problem, but if there is an ocean between the two of you, the expense is something to be really considered thoughtfully.
Many people who have found their partners online have known and accepted from the start that someone would have to sacrifice. If you are the one to travel the distance, you have a lot of preparations to do.
Picking up the Place
It is a good idea to pick a location that is not too fancy, or too odd. A nice restaurant is the common ground, as you and your date can talk and get to know each other over meals. You can also choose a coffee or a bookstore café. Just don’t meet up in a night club on the first date; places like these can be really crowded and loud.
Women are advised to choose a public place. Do not, for whatever reason, invite the man in your apartment on the first date. Women just can’t be too cautious these days. The guy who seem so nice and gentle online may turn out to be a crazed maniac in real life.
If you are a man, you need to be sensitive about this part of the dating game. Do not suggest that you visit the woman at her place. It would be better if you can suggest meeting at a safe place. You would surely earn positive points when you do this.
Unless you want to show off your date to your friends, don’t pick a location where you know you will meet people you know. It can be a bit awkward to have to introduce your date with your friends when you are just starting to get to know each other.
Do’s and Don’ts for First Dates
Look good, but don’t overdress. First dates are usually not elaborate. For example, it would be better to dress casually into something that you really feel comfortable in. It is natural that you would want to dress to impress, but sometimes people tend to overdo it. Wear something that flatters your best points. And make sure that the clothes you wear are clean and highly appropriate for the place and the time.
Before donning your chosen outfit, do hygiene check. Make sure your nails and hair are clean. It is also important to smell good. Remember that you will be dating someone for the first time and that person has not seen you before. You wouldn’t want him/her to get disappointed because you are not presentable.
You are ready to face your online sweetheart in person and you know you are going to look great. But, what are your expectations on your date? Naturally, you would want him/her to look just as good as you. It is a good feeling knowing that the other person has spent time in making sure that he/she will look good in your eyes.
You will of course, know what he/she looks like being able to chat on cam. But how would he/she smell? How would he/she dress up? These are the things that would surprise you. Hopefully, it will surprise you in a good way.
Try not to expect too much though if you don’t want to get disappointed. To keep things in perspective, it would be a good idea to keep an open-mind about the whole thing. You may really hit it off when you two are chatting online, but the situation may be totally different once you are facing each other. The chemistry you can fell bursting through webcam may not surface when you see your date in person. So, be prepared for this.
When going out on a date, it is always a good idea to let someone else know where you will be going and with whom. This is very important, not just for women, but for men too. It is still always better to be safe than sorry, after all.
All in all, preparing for a date for the first with someone you met online can really be exciting; especially if the connection between the two of you is quite string. The whole situation can be scary too, and you just really need to prepare yourself for the outcome, no matter what it will be.